Things were going well. I thought we were on an upswing with Emily. Yesterday was my birthday and it will probably be one of my most remembered birthdays to date. I wish this was for all sorts of wonderful memories but it's not. My day started out really great. I was getting lots of Birthday Wishes from friends and family through email, the phone, Twitter, Facebook, etc. I was feeling really good about the day. I had decided to give Emily a dose of the "xanax" to help her get through her morning jitters.
By noon, I thought things were going great. I was looking forward to Emily coming home and celebrating the rest of my day with me. Then I received a phone call from Emily's teacher. Informing me that Emily was throwing rocks at recess, disrespecting the teacher in class and also completely disrespecting The Principal during a math lesson. My Emily. I've seen Emily do a lot of off the wall things before, hair pulling stuff that would leave me completely dumbfounded. Disrespect for an authority figure has NEVER been one of these things. Even her teacher sounded completely shocked about the whole situation.
When school let out I walked over to the school, quietly brought Emily home and proceeded to do 2 hours of schoolwork with her. We also wrote and delivered an apology note to the principal and wrote another apology letter to her teacher to give to her the next day. We did flashcards and spelling. We did the homework assignment for the day and also read. When I couldn't take another minute of that I informed Emily that she would be going to be 30 minutes early that evening. This crushed her. I told her that she would continue to go to bed 30 minutes early for every infraction at school.
Today, before Emily left for school, I told her that if she misbehaved in any way at school she would be sitting in the office for the last hour of school when they would be having their Halloween Party. I know that Emily has been wanting to come home early from school so I didn't want to feed into that by taking her home early. I have been on pins and needles all morning. As long as I don't receive a call from Emily's teacher that anything bad has happened I'm going to surprise Emily by attending the party. It begins in 15 minutes and I have butterflies in my stomach.
I'm really hoping that yesterday's incidents were due to the new medication. I know Emily has a lot of issues to work though and I'm willing to help with anxiety and fear and all of those emotions. I have a really hard time with defiance and it is completely unacceptable in my world. I felt like the biggest parenting fail yesterday. To get a call like that and be told that the principal had never had a student be so disrespectful before. My heart sank.
To top off the evening, my mom was rushed to the ER with a high temp and body aches. She has been admitted and will be in the hospital until at least Monday. She is having issues with her blood pressure.
So there you go. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!
Honestly, if it wasn't for all the wonderful birthday wishes I received yesterday, I think surviving the day would have been a whole lot harder. Thank you everyone for all your beautiful support. It has meant so much to me. In ways that I don't think I can express.